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Church hurt

Church Hurt and 4 Steps for Healing

By Alison Cook | May 20, 2020

Have you ever experienced “church hurt”? As a counselor, I’ve seen the various wounds that people experience from unhealthy leaders while attending church. Here are some examples of church hurt: • A single mom whose church promised to stand by her, then disappeared after she got a divorce from her abusive husband • A kind-hearted...

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How to Control Anger Outbursts in 5 Steps

By Alison Cook | May 13, 2020

Nothing can improve your relationship more than learning how to control anger outbursts. For example, do you find yourself losing your temper with your loved ones? Do you yell at your kids more often than you’d like to admit? Or, do you get resentful towards your spouse and lash out with sarcastic remarks? You might...

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Signs of Bad Church Leadership

3 Signs of Bad Church Leadership

By Alison Cook | May 6, 2020

What are the signs of bad church leadership versus church leaders who are healthy? A church is like any family. It’s comprised of wounded people. The presence of wounds does not make or break a church or a family. It’s what we do with them that makes the difference. In healthy families, each member manages...

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The Effects of Toxic Parents and 5 Steps to Healing

By Alison Cook | April 29, 2020

The effects of toxic parents take root in childhood. But, the problems aren’t always identified until well into adulthood. Toxic parents can create situations where a child is overly criticized, devoid of affirmation, explicitly controlled, or put in an unfair role of caring for the adults. You were hardwired to love the people who raised...

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Enmeshed Family

The Enmeshed Family and 6 Signs of Toxic Behavior

By Alison Cook | April 22, 2020

Were you raised in an enmeshed family? Discover 6 signs of enmeshed families and the personal boundaries that are typically violated.

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Setting Boundaries with Friends

By Alison Cook | April 15, 2020

Setting boundaries with friends isn’t easy. Dr. Alison Cook explains 7 relationship red flags you can use to tell the difference between good friends and toxic people.

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Healthy Boundaries in Marriage and How to Tell the Difference

By Alison Cook | April 8, 2020

Learn how to set healthy boundaries in marriage and tell the difference between a good relationship and unhealthy behavior from Dr. Alison Cook.

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Ask Alison: Is Setting Boundaries Selfish?

By Alison Cook | April 1, 2020

Is setting boundaries selfish? Is it better to be selfless? Dr. Alison Cook reveals a misguided belief about selfishness that women need to know.

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Boundaries Close Quarters

Ask Alison: How do I set boundaries in close quarters with others?

By Alison Cook | March 25, 2020

Question: How do I stay sane living in close quarters with other people? Answer: Here’s some universal advice that can help regardless of your situation, especially during a crisis…

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Boundaries with Anxiety

Ask Alison: How do I set boundaries with anxiety?

By Alison Cook | March 11, 2020

Question: I feel anxious all the time. My friends tell me that I just need to trust God more, but it doesn’t help. How can I stop feeling so anxious? (Patrice H.) Answer: Let’s talk boundaries with anxiety, because I understand how you feel. First of all, remember that fear is a common emotion. A...

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How to Forgive and Move On in a Relationship

By Alison Cook | March 4, 2020

Question: People keep telling me that I need to forgive and move on in my relationship. I want to forgive, but does that mean I have to pretend like nothing happened? (Julie W.) Answer: I’m so glad you asked this question. How to forgive and move on in a relationship is often misunderstood. The short...

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Ask Alison: Will Setting Boundaries Make Me Seem Like a B**ch?

By Alison Cook | February 26, 2020

Question: I’m nervous that setting boundaries with other people will make me seem like a b**ch. What do I do?

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